Gbemi ‘Coach G’ Adekoya
“You owe other people a duty of care.”
The Transcript
Gbemi Adekoya is a psychotherapist helping people explore, identify, and get unstuck from old patterns.
Her approach is trauma-informed, recognizing the impact of life experiences and culture on your current circumstances, and focusing on "what happened to you" rather than "what's wrong with you." She combines Neuroscience research with evidence-based methods like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Applied Behavior Analysis, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Solution-Focused Brief Therapy, to provide practical tools for her clients to improve their outcomes. Her portfolio includes roles as a Crisis Counselor for the National Suicide Prevention Helpline, Case Manager and Disability Integration Advisor for FEMA, and Behavior Therapist specializing in Autism and Neurodivergence.
Gbemi is a Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC), Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and Board Certified Assistant Behavior Analyst (BCaBA). She has a master's degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from the University of Houston Victoria and a Bachelor's in Behavioral Science from University of Houston Clear-Lake.
Her approach is trauma-informed, recognizing the impact of life experiences and culture on your current circumstances, and focusing on "what happened to you" rather than "what's wrong with you." She combines Neuroscience research with evidence-based methods like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Applied Behavior Analysis, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Solution-Focused Brief Therapy, to provide practical tools for her clients to improve their outcomes. Her portfolio includes roles as a Crisis Counselor for the National Suicide Prevention Helpline, Case Manager and Disability Integration Advisor for FEMA, and Behavior Therapist specializing in Autism and Neurodivergence.
Gbemi is a Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC), Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), and Board Certified Assistant Behavior Analyst (BCaBA). She has a master's degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from the University of Houston Victoria and a Bachelor's in Behavioral Science from University of Houston Clear-Lake.
In this episode, I speak with psychotherapist Gbemi Adekoya (@gbemisoke on X) to explore the complexities of trauma, healing, and personal responsibility in interpersonal relationships. I consider this essential Sweet Medicine listening because all social change begins with the individual and this is the one episode in this project that focuses exclusively on the individual.
We discussed Nigeria as a metaphorical abusive parent, the necessity of acknowledging one's feelings and experiences as part of the healing process, the vitality of hope and agency, and what unconditional positive regard looks like in Gbemi’s psychotherapy practice.
Timestamps
02:54 Nigeria as an Abusive Parent
06:03 Hope and Agency in Healing
12:00 The Role of Unconditional Positive Regard
15:04 Navigating Personal Responsibility and Accountability
17:57 The Dilemma of Victimhood and Perpetration
23:46 Tools for Emotional Intelligence and Healthy Relationships
Full transcript to be uploaded soon.